Be You.

So, my mother took my grandmother’s horrible advice and stayed married to my father for eleven years. During that time she put her own life on hold, pretending the entire time to be someone else. She consoled herself that she would leave one day, but she was waiting until I was older, thinking the divorce would not be so traumatic. Then, along came my brother and so she waited for him… Truth be told, she was never happy as a housewife and a mother. These roles chafed and confined her. She constantly sought other avenues of expression. Looking back, I… Read More »

Bad Advice

Sometime in the spring of 1972 my mother sat on the back porch of her suburban home. She sat with her own mother, miserable and bereft at the state of her life. She had a one year old baby, she was married, and she had a nice house. For 1972 she had everything she was supposed to want – but it wasn’t enough. She married my father because she’d gotten pregnant and the the appellations “single mother” and “baby daddy” didn’t exist yet. As she cried, beseeching her mother for advice that would soothe her misery and make her life… Read More »

Boys vs Girls

Yesterday, I told you everything we do we do because we think it will make us happy. I’m sure you already knew that, but maybe hadn’t considered it quite this way before. The other afternoon I was reminded how strong our desire for immediate happiness can be, so much so that it subverts our long term character and integrity, eventually making us miserable in the long term. On Wednesday afternoons I trek over to the Alabama Waldorf School to teach the After School Agoge. Generally, I have a group of 15 or so kids that I take through warm ups… Read More »

The Pursuit of Happiness

“We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.” – Thomas Jefferson, Declaration of Independence This sentence holds a mythic quality in our society. We’ve heard, read it, said it countless times in our academic careers. It is a meme that has attained “Duh” status, it’s a foregone conclusion. So much so that we don’t give it a second thought. As far as history is concerned there were some radical components to this statement. The… Read More »